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hi guys, its been a long time right, i've been soo soo busy. hope everyone is good. well i have a problem, i've been dating this guy for almost 5 years, very sweet guy, and i want to introduce him to my parents, problem is they've always had a problem with people with his ethnicity, not just them but everyone has a problem with those people, you know how Africans have a way of being very ethnocentric, and my pop on a normal day is a dificult person, so imagine me telling him this, i dont even have the courage because his reaction will be crazy, i know hes soo gonna freak out, but i cant keep this guy in hiding forever, for Christs sake am 25 and its soo crazy that my boyfriend has been waiting for me this long to take this step. i need to do something, and i know you guys might say i should telll him softly but mehhn i know the person am talking of here, no amount of softly will do the trick and my mum is no better. am in a fix cuz i dont want to keep this guy waiting forever and he's very tired of all t

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Tavel

I swear I thought you were a dude I guess coz of the dude pics. Back to the problem, There is no good, soft or nice way to go about something that will heart someone. Regardless of how u do it he will get upset and waiting longer will just make the reaction worse. Confront it...somehow you will have to.

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tryinghard

@kmpeter you are my clone because in 2 or 3 instances you write my exact sentiments. I would only add don't break it softly just tell him as it is & yes go with a mob no parent will want to cause in front of their siblings friends. and leave whith the crowd so that you don't have to be cornered alone. Has the guy introduced you to his folks? maybe it should start there so thay if they bring problems he will understand exactly what to expect from your side. But also pray - the heart of the king is in the hand of God - He can change anything anytime believe me. All the best & please stop working so hard until you forget to come home to majibu

34 days ago

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Kiash

I dont think you love this dude via your family,what l mean is that he is your dude and if you get married to him,its not your family.Its your life.Introduce him to your parents and try make them understand its your life.

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kmpeter

remember its ur life! if u love the guy, then introduce him by way of proxy, let him come home with some of ur common friends. eg from college so as to break the ice. also, see if yu can ge the support of ur siblings, cousins, uncles aunts etc. u can also have a casual link up with an aunt/uncle close to you as a way of softening up ur parents.

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alisat

be open minded ad tell this guy the truth

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